The Insurmountable [[False]] Truths about Relationships: Pt. II

Hey, people. Back for more fun and truths. Lies. Or both.

Today's topic I'd like to address. Habits. Bad ones.

And gosh, I need to stop writing in fragments. Oh. Well.

[[False]] TRUTH: The other person has a hidden personality trait that will drive you nuts.

Be it biting nails, leaving the lamps on in the living room, an obnoxious laugh, twirling of the hair, being lazy, etc etc, it's there. The habit. And it's just waiting to be noticed so it can drive you NUTS.

Once you notice it and start going bonkers, feel free to constantly nag and pick at the other person. It's only fair. Have you ever dealt with a 24/7 nose picker? Maybe a mess-leaver?

MAYBE BOTH.

Death. Taxes. Habits that will drive you to heavy drinking. Ah, life.

THE ACTUAL TRUTH: You decide whether or not the 'habit' drives you nuts.

It's not a prerequisite to being a habit. If one half of the relationship has a annoying habit, then other half of the relationship loses their marbles and receives straight jacket. No.

If they do something with the potential to be annoying, look at it two ways:

1. You can address it with them in order to figure it out instead of accepting it as a horrible habit that will be stuck with you forever, and if they still keep plodding on in their 'ignorant' ways, then

2. Count your blessings and see it from the flip side. Are they a drunk? Abusive? Taken to extreme anger, robbing convenience stores, picking pockets, chewing ice cream instead of licking it? If you answered no, remind yourself that God has blessed you by allowing a wonderful person in your life who, despite that one 'habit', has a bazillion other amazing habits that make them the person you want to spend forever with. If you answered yes, then maybe you need to reconsider your choice.

We're human beings. Yes. We're going to do things that will cause angst to those around us. We're sinful, inclined to slip up, and born with habits.

But instead of cultivating the mindset of insanity when those habits pop up, instead focus on the positive, on how the habit really isn't such a big deal, and why regardless of the habit, God has richly blessed you.

Don't encourage bitterness. Design a mindset of positivity and mutual respect, even when the other person doesn't always do things the way you would.

So. Habits that drive the other person to cliffdiving?

ARGUMENT = INVALID.

Oh. Yes. There's more coming. Stay tuned (again)!