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There are good days. There are bad days. And there are 'smack me upside the head and let me drown in a tub of sorrow' days.
Ah, sounds familiar yet? You must be in a long distance relationship. Me too! It's fun, isn't it?
And here comes the issue of coping with the miles. How do we do it? How do we stay sane? Earlier I covered some of the means of maintaining a somewhat normal life.
Ready for more?
-Find something funny. And no, I'm not referring to America's Funniest Home Videos, unless that's the only means for you to laugh. Read an entertaining book. Watch something humorous. Have a lively conversation with the family. Sometimes your mood needs a lift. No, you won't want to have a mood lift- you will want to stay mopey. Don't be mopey. Be happy.
-Plan ahead. This may or may not apply to differing degrees, depending on where you're at in your relationship. Obviously, if you just met, I don't recommend planning weddings or picking out beige carpets for the future home. However, be aware and don't focus alone on how wonderful the other person makes you feel. If things work out and you're pursuing a relationship with purpose, odds are you'll need more than love and cutsie feelings to keep you going. Use your brain, not just your heart.
-Be real. It's very easy to hide when you feel poorly, hide when you have a worry or a concern regarding the other person, or hide when you're not at your best in long distance relationships. I'm here to tell you for the sake of your relationship: don't. If you're not really happy, stop pretending you're happy. I'm not saying be grumpy, but let the other person know where you're REALLY at. If they can't handle you at your worst, they sure don't deserve you at your best... or so a certain blonde said, but I digress.
-Embrace the here and now. Do you know how much it hurts to be somewhere when that someone is so far away? It hurts a lot. But here's a change of perspective. Look around. Do you have parents? Siblings? Friends? Odds are you do. They care about you. Love you, even. Don't forget about them! Don't waste months, maybe even years of your life pining away! Remember to live with purpose in the here and now. Is it always fun? No. I've personally been feeling extremely demotivated because well- my main inspiration on this earth is far away and it just isn't the same without him. But don't forget those around you now. Do something amazing for them, for God, and in the end... that someone will be proud that you are.
-Make a monthly goal. Maybe it's something little, like 'clean the kitchen every afternoon'. Maybe it's big, like do a Crossfit competition. Ahem. Either way, regardless of commitment, having a monthly 'something' will make time go by as well as keep you productive. For me, I do Spartan Races, Crossfit comps, musicals, and of course, (here we go again) work out. But what's yours? Maybe you have a reading list. A financial goal. Whatever it is, do it!
What are your ways of dealing with the distance? If you mention something magical, odds are I won't believe you. For the rest of you, I'd love to hear! Sometimes, we blow the whole long distance shenanigans out of proportions. Remember, God has a plan! No amount of miles can stop him. So... trust. Sanity or no sanity. He'll see you through!
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